I'm not surprised at all!

The other Saturday, I went to a baby shower for one of my co-workers. Another co-worker and I rode together. Friday night, there was torrential rain and things of that nature. As a result, a lot of the roads were flooded that next day. The location of the shower was at least an hour on a good day but because of the roads, it took us a little longer.

When my co-worker(who is Black) and I arrived at the shower, a white co-worker said "Ok ladies, we're not on Dunbar time." Now Dunbar is the school where we work. I told her that we don't live out in the suburbs and we were coming from the city and had no control over the roads. If we lived in the suburbs, we would have been there on time.

I was trying to be cordial with this co-worker because I didn't want to upset the honoree. I really wanted to say some other things to her, but I was reminded by something my mom used to say all the time: If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

Now a new school year is approaching and I'm not so sure if I'm going to follow my mom's advice this school year. It is apparent to me that some people need to know that I'm on to them and their racist comments.

Addendum to some things may never change

A few months ago I posted my thoughts about some comments that I found to be quite offensive. Well, the other night when I was at beauty school, the receptionist made a comment that offended a lot of my classmates. She made a comment about a classmate taking longer because she was blow drying ethnic hair. Everyone in the room had these looks of horror on their face. As a result, the general manager called a meeting with everyone. When the comment was brought up, the receptionist got emotional claiming the statement wasn't meant to be racist and she apologized to us. Now, many of us didn't believe her because she has made other comments that were questionable. She made insulting comments about Black men and Arabian people in front of myself and a classmate that is Arabian. Oh, I forgot to mention that those comments were made on a day in which she scored 100% on her ethnic and diversity training test. So what does that mean? Not a thing because she doesn't know who to put that theory into practice. Other classmates has heard her say things that they questioned as well.

I think sometimes people don't realize that it's not what you say it's the manner in which it is spoken. In the situation at school, everyone knew the girl was styling her mom's hair and we saw both of them so was the comment really necessary? I don't believe it was. She could have just told us that the girl was still working on her client. Plus, earlier that evening, a situation with the student (the one whom was still working with her mom) and the receptionist and it was handled very inappropriately and unprofessionally.

I am not going to stop posting about the racism that still exist because it is a reality for me. I don't care if people get mad and stop talking to me. I've come to understand that those who get upset have a lot of growing to do.