Please allow us to give thanks before we shove the snowmen down our throats!

I have noticed this year the Christmas decorations in the stores have appeared earlier than usual. I know they always seem to appear right after Halloween, but it seems like as soon as midnight hit, the Christmas decorations were up! It's like the stores hit a button and they magically appeared.

There are so many people who are going to go further into debt during this holiday season. They will buy gifts for children who probably could give a care about the "stuff." I wonder why so many people put some much money into a few hours on one day. I always ask people who do this, what happens if the person they were buying all this stuff for suddenly died? What would they do? Would it even matter at that point?

I think a lot of people focus on the commercialism of the holiday season and they forget the true meaning or reason for this time of year. Maybe we should focus on what's really important and learn to celebrate those people we love on a daily basis. I am grateful to be alive and I know tomorrow is not promised to anyone. I make sure I tell those who are near and dear to me how I feel about them on a regular basis.

This holiday season, think carefully before you go spending money you don't have. I went to a furniture store the other day and the owner said something to me that made a lot of sense. He said " Why finance furniture? It makes no sense." I thought about that and he is correct. There are certain things we have to finance such as a home or a car, but why does furniture have to be one of them? Think about this as you go out shopping. Some items are not worth buying if you don't have the disposable income to pay for it that day.

Let us give thanks before we start crying out for the Almighty to save us from our debt.

Start planning for your future and stop living for the moment.

Stop talking about it and get up and be about it!

In recent weeks, there have been many murders in the Chicago area. I have noticed that so many people on Facebook have posted how horrible these crimes are, yet I don't see anyone attempting to do anything about it. Michael Baisden has started a campaign to get one million mentors as a result of the brutal beating death of 16 year old Chicago student Derrion Albert. One of the things Michael Baisden has noticed is the lack of Black men stepping up to be mentors. There are a lot of white men and women stepping up to mentor these young misguided Black boys, but very few Black men.

My question is, where are the Black men? Maybe they are too busy getting it in and that's why they can't or won't mentor a child. We all know that many of the parents are not parenting their children so why do we continue to act surprised when we hear about the actions of the misguided children?

I am challenging all to get involved and mentor a child or two. You never know what type of impact you may have on their life.

I'm not surprised at all!

The other Saturday, I went to a baby shower for one of my co-workers. Another co-worker and I rode together. Friday night, there was torrential rain and things of that nature. As a result, a lot of the roads were flooded that next day. The location of the shower was at least an hour on a good day but because of the roads, it took us a little longer.

When my co-worker(who is Black) and I arrived at the shower, a white co-worker said "Ok ladies, we're not on Dunbar time." Now Dunbar is the school where we work. I told her that we don't live out in the suburbs and we were coming from the city and had no control over the roads. If we lived in the suburbs, we would have been there on time.

I was trying to be cordial with this co-worker because I didn't want to upset the honoree. I really wanted to say some other things to her, but I was reminded by something my mom used to say all the time: If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

Now a new school year is approaching and I'm not so sure if I'm going to follow my mom's advice this school year. It is apparent to me that some people need to know that I'm on to them and their racist comments.

Is a high school diploma worth the ink used to print it?

I teach high school English in what most people would call an inner city school. I sometimes liken it to "Lean on Me." It may not be as bad as Eastside, but the potential to get there is right around the corner. However, this post is about the number of high school students who actually earn a diploma.

In the United States, according to www.higheredinfo.org, the average graduation rate is 68.6%. Now some people may think that is a fairly decent number and they may be correct; however, what is happening to the other 31.4%? America needs to wake up and realize we are doing a disservice to ourselves if we don't try to fix this public education system. There are so many children (especially in minority communities) who are being pushed through the system it's ridiculous. Many educators often feel like they are forced to pass students who come to class but don't do any work. What type of example is this setting?

I know in the past, the school where I teach used to allow students to walk across the stage even if they weren't eligible to graduate. It seems like the expectations for children has been lowered so low that doing something "for show" is the only thing that matters. What happened to working hard and earning a good grade? Many people can't just show up to work 100% of the time, do 50-0% of the work and receive a full paycheck, so why do we allow our students (who are supposed to be our future leaders) to do this? It makes absolutely no sense.


America is failing our future and we don't even care, or is it because the ones who are failing don't resemble the majority it is okay? I'm asking someone to who may be more astute than I to tell me if a high school diploma is worth the ink used to print it?

Prom Time is Upon Us

The other day I was listening to the radio and the disc jockey was talking about prom. There are a number of website devoted to the "ghetto" couples attending prom and I guess there was a link on the DJ's web page. So callers were calling in and giving their point of view on these outfits. Now, I have quite a few issues with this and other websites devoted to make a mockery out of unsuspecting children. Yes, a good number of them are just children.

First, I am not sure if anyone is familiar with a DVD titled "Ethnic Notions." Well, this DVD gives the history of how so many negative stereotypes regarding Black people came about and how the media continues to perpetuate them. When I hear about these websites or receive these emails with "ghetto" prom pictures, I cringe. In my humble and maybe limited opinion, I feel like it further perpetuates the negative stereotypes that the media has projected about Black people. It also is a reminder that coonery and buffoonery still exist.

Secondly, let me provide you with a definition of "ghetto". According to the Eleventh Edition of the Merriam-Webster's Collegiate Dictionary, a ghetto is defined as the following: (1) a quarter of a city in which Jews were formerly required to live (2) a quarter of a city in which members of a minority group live esp. because of social, legal, or economic pressure (3a) an isolated group (3b)a situation that resembles a ghetto esp. in conferring inferior status or limiting opportunity.

Now I guess what I'm having a difficult time understanding is, how does these outfits that may seem a bit unconventional resemble a ghetto? I have seen some of the outfits and although I don't agree with many of them, I would never call them "ghetto". I believe the kids today are creating their own style and that is fine. Just because many people may not see their outfits as being classy or elegant, does not mean the kids wearing them agree.

As a community, I believe we need to work with these children and mentor them to show them a better way. Instead of people taking photos of them and posting them on various websites to make a mockery of them, we need to show them a different way. This doesn't mean that one way is better or worse than the other, it just gives them an opportunity to have that exposure that they have not had.

Finally, I think these websites gives "other" people the ammunition to continue to make a mockery of Black children. There are others who enjoy maybe even thrive off of Black people who make fun of one another and display them in a negative light. That makes their job easier. I want to appeal to those adults who pass these e-mails around and go to the various websites that portray these "ghetto" prom images; this year when you get them, respond to the person who sent it to you and ask him or her what they could have done to prevent these type of images? If they don't have an answer, then maybe you can advise that person to stop making a mockery out of these children lives and maybe instead of spending time passing the pictures around, mentor a child.

Addendum to some things may never change

A few months ago I posted my thoughts about some comments that I found to be quite offensive. Well, the other night when I was at beauty school, the receptionist made a comment that offended a lot of my classmates. She made a comment about a classmate taking longer because she was blow drying ethnic hair. Everyone in the room had these looks of horror on their face. As a result, the general manager called a meeting with everyone. When the comment was brought up, the receptionist got emotional claiming the statement wasn't meant to be racist and she apologized to us. Now, many of us didn't believe her because she has made other comments that were questionable. She made insulting comments about Black men and Arabian people in front of myself and a classmate that is Arabian. Oh, I forgot to mention that those comments were made on a day in which she scored 100% on her ethnic and diversity training test. So what does that mean? Not a thing because she doesn't know who to put that theory into practice. Other classmates has heard her say things that they questioned as well.

I think sometimes people don't realize that it's not what you say it's the manner in which it is spoken. In the situation at school, everyone knew the girl was styling her mom's hair and we saw both of them so was the comment really necessary? I don't believe it was. She could have just told us that the girl was still working on her client. Plus, earlier that evening, a situation with the student (the one whom was still working with her mom) and the receptionist and it was handled very inappropriately and unprofessionally.

I am not going to stop posting about the racism that still exist because it is a reality for me. I don't care if people get mad and stop talking to me. I've come to understand that those who get upset have a lot of growing to do.

Parents need to be parents

The other day, I had a situation with one of my students who got into some trouble. It was a pressing matter in most eyes, however the parent didn't seem to think so. When the parent was notified, the replay was "I'm at work." Now, how can a parent be so cold and unconcerned when it comes to his or her child.

I am always baffled by parents who are too wrapped up in their own lives and they neglect their children. These kids didn't ask to come into this world and they shouldn't be punished for being here. I think it's amazing how almost every profession requires the individual to go through a variety of test to ensure they are qualified for the job. Wouldn't it be nice if parenting had those same stipulations?

Parenting is a full-time job and with very few breaks. It would be nice if people would think about what a parent is and all that it entails before bringing a child into this world. I encounter so many children who are crying out for the love and affection from their parents and the parents are not listening.