A few things I believe all men should know when it comes to dating

In a previous post, I mentioned my inability to find a reliable date for some upcoming functions. I know some people may wonder what's the big deal, but sometimes a lady requires an escort. I am happy to announce, that this has been resolved. This entire situation got me to thinking about some of the things I believe all men need to know when it comes to dating women.

1. When you are interested in a woman, if you don't have yourself together please do everyone a favor and don't even attempt to pursue the woman. Many women don't/won't wait for you to get it together, especially if you are over a certain age.

2. Don't wait too late. There is a saying that goes something like "Study long, study wrong". A lot of guys are like a little kid in the candy store when it comes to dating. Some men act like kids in the candy store when it comes to dating. They get so excited with all the different selections, they don't know how to narrow it down to just one.

3. Start showing a little maturity. I can't speak for all women, but I know quite a few who can't stand immature males. Know when enough is enough.

4. Second chances don't come around too often. If a woman allows you to come back into her life, don't do the fool and repeat the same mistake(s) twice. What men also need to realize is, most women have a window in which she will allow a man to come back and after that window, he can hang it up!

5. Be a man! I think this is the most important tidbit to know. Women don't want to have to try and rear an adult male into a man. If you have reached a certain age and you don't know what a man is supposed to do or how he's supposed to act, you need to get a book or ask a man. Women shouldn't have to tell a man to hold the door for her, send her flowers just because, or any other thing like that.

Wanted: A good man.

I am single and for the most part I am okay with this; however, there are times when I get frustrated and discouraged. One of those times is when I am invited to parties, weddings or other events where the majority of the people are married or in long-term relationships. Most of the time, there is no one there for me to converse with and let the record reflect that I don't want your man (most of the time the women think I do).

I've been invited to a few events that require an escort and I don't have one to accompany me. It seems like when you ask some Black men to go with you to an event, they assume you want to be in a relationship with them. They never think you may enjoy their company and want to hang out with them. I am not really sure what the deal is, but I know I am tired of it.

I have a P.S.A. to all the people who have these events and don't think about their single friends when doing so: It isn't that we are looking for you to hook us up with anyone, we just want someone to have a decent conversation with while at your event. Is that too much to ask?